Tuesday, June 3, 2008

The Beginning......


The beginning of life is a miracle. A tree grows tall and strong from a tiny seed. A bird hatches and flies to freedom from an egg that is kept warm for many months. We humans are born from our mother's womb after nine months of extra care. Life is a gift. It's a gift by a woman who has taken care of us before we were born. It took nine months out of her life. Out of her daily routine. Nine months of extra care, extra nurture and to eat so much more to feed two human beings at once. The woman is the strongest emotional support a child can ever have. That woman is fondly called "MOTHER".
Birth is the very opposite of death. Its uncomplicated, straight forward and everyone is very well versed at it. Birth is the beginning of a life. A life, a journey, and a learning course to become the best we can become.
Our life begins here. We are born with our fists tightly clasped as to saying I want to hold on to life…hold on to our natural selves and remain pure. When we are born everyone around us is smiling with joy welcoming us into this world. Whereas we are crying. I think we cry cause we are out of the protective womb and out in the world scared of the uncertainties in life.
Our life is so simple for the first few years. All we do is eat, sleep and sleep again. What a life. We have no worries, no hassles and absolutely no responsibility whatsoever. Our development begins at birth. Our upbringing starts from there itself. We become what we see and feel. The environment around us moulds us into the human beings we are to become on growing old. At birth little do we know what is in store for us in this world.
When we are small we are the purest ever nothing is corrupt or manipulative. Its just the purest of thoughts with purest of intentions. It's the best phase of our lives. We live in our own world made of fantasies and imagination. It's free of all the vices that we might encounter in the future. It would be a miracle were we to hold on to these qualities throughout our lives. But it's not impossible.
The first smile, the first steps of a baby, the first words out of his mouth and that look of awe on his face when he sees something amazing. That innocence that excitement and that truth on a baby's face is something that is remarkable. When we are baby's we can make as many errors as we want without facing the music literally. It's like our first time for everything so we are always forgiven with kind words. We are always picked up every time we fall and when we are hurt we always find solace in our mothers arms with our mother scolding the object that injured us in the first place. How we are understood without saying a word and how people read or try to read our facial expressions and hand signals.
How we all change once we start growing up and understanding life. How we get influenced by people and things around us. How we lose most of our qualities to the outside world.
The strange thing about growing up is that we never realize what we are losing till we don't eventually lose it. We are supposedly the smartest of all living creatures and on top of the food chain but when it comes to this I think we are nowhere near smart.
We often hear everyone telling us don't do this don't do that and so on. I think sometimes we seem to love doing the very opposite as an action to show revolt and to show that we are in control of the situation. We don't like to be told what to do. Its human tendency. Little do we realize that experience is vital and we should take cue from people around us but we tend to love doing things our way and facing the consequences for our actions. In our teenage years we seem to always revolt and rebel and try to stamp our authority without realizing how much it were to harm us in the bargain. We may not be wrong all the time but most of the times the experience of an older man belittles our views and beliefs and comes on top.
Some of us live by the rule I want to learn from my own mistakes rather than being smart enough to learn from others mistakes as well. This is where our most exciting phase starts our teenage years. This is the phase of our life where we know what we are doing, we know the consequences and I guess we always think we are ready to face them.
It's the beginning of a conscious world for us…….

Tuesday, May 20, 2008

Literal Education.....


Everybody says being educated is important. I will agree to an extent but will not bet on it. Some of us are commerce graduates some are engineers some our doctors. We all are literate in some way or the other. But that’s only in literary terms. How many of us have a diploma when it comes to life?
There was this quote I read some time back this is what it said: - “literal education is of no use if it does not build up a sound character”.
So true. For u might be educated in the best universities in the most profitable field possible but what is the use if your character is not sound.
What’s the use of al those books u have read and learnt if u don’t have a character to support it? U might be the best doctor and treat people and cure their diseases but cannot treat your colleagues and your sub ordinates with respect.
You might be a very good constructor and build huge buildings and bridges and so on but cannot build very good relationships with people around you. What's the use of being a good constructor? What’s the use of learning and studying all of that and not being able build your own relationships and making the closest people around you happy.
We say education is the foremost requirement in life. I strongly disagree. It’s not about how many books did u read and how many exams did u appear and get distinction. It’s about how one leads his/her life and how many souls did he/she touch. How many people thought about them not cause of what they achieved academically but for the human beings they are.
Sometimes a uneducated human being is the most educated one. I have seen people who have barely gone to school who know more about life than people who have been studying for years. I think it’s important for us to learn about life and get a diploma in that rather than run after other certificates and diplomas.
Remember education is important but what is of paramount importance is about how you treat people and how you use your talents to affect somebody else’s life in a positive manner.

Monday, May 19, 2008

Control Freak.......


Are we human beings control freaks? Don’t u think we like to be in charge of every situation? In case we are not in charge of something we are tentative and are little wobbly and uncomfortable. We tend to become negative in case something is not in our control. Don’t you think this negativity leads to us faltering in our task?
Why is it so that we get uncomfortable of the unknown? Why cant we be positive of the unknown and be comfortable not knowing what is going to happen? Why does the unknown scare us?
We are control freaks. We want to control everything concerning us. That is exactly why we like to pre plan things and get jittery when they don’t work out that way. It’s in our basic nature. To get uncomfortable as soon as we enter an unknown area of life or likewise. This is what makes us play a safe game. Play within our limits, sometimes we tend not to push ourselves any further thinking of the unknown freaks us out.
All of us have a talent a hidden talent. A knack of doing something different and brilliant but only a few of us use this talent. A lot of us play safe. For example join their family business when they think, they would be better of becoming an artist or a writer and so on. We are afraid to listen to our hearts and do something cause the heart works on instinct whereas the head works on calculations. That is why we prefer listening to the head cause it’s calculative and would let us know about the risks before we go for anything.
This is why a lot of us do not reach out for the dreams we have and rather keep them buried inside us and try to forget them or ignore them. A lot of us don’t fulfill our potential and don’t do what we are meant to do so.
Don’t u think at times u are in the wrong place at the wrong time for the wrong reasons. Don’t u find yourself better suited somewhere else somewhere your heart belongs.
When u die u want to stand in front of god and say I have exhausted all the talents u have given me and now I stand here as an empty soul. Just the way u would have wanted me to come to you.
Life is not about control. Life is about letting yourself free and reaching out of the limits set by you. Cause in the end limit is when u stop trying.
Think about it guys. Go into the unknown discover your soul, discover your talent. Take a risk follow your heart. Be illogical, impractical and a little impulsive like a small child.

Sunday, May 18, 2008

Power Of Voice.....


Can u imagine life without a voice? Can u imagine living with only actions and no words? With a permanent translator or someone who understands your actions. We take our voice for granted u knows. We speak anything. We hurt so many people with our rude and cruel words. We don’t value our voice. We don’t value the gift of voice.
What would we do without our voice I wonder? How would we express ourselves for everyone to understand? How would one say what they feel without saying it?
It’s a shame how we don’t value our gift. We should be more careful with what we say. Cause once it is out u cannot retract your statements no matter how it might hurt someone else. But yet we don’t understand the value of our voice. Why is it so that we know we should think twice before we speak and yet we don’t? Why is it so difficult for us to be nice and polite to others?
I sometimes feel we let emotions take over us rather than us controlling them they control us. I know it’s difficult to be cool, calm and collected at all times but seriously how many of us have consciously tried to do so.
Life ain't about how much u say and don’t say, its about how much u say and how much of an impact its had on the other person. And I am talking about the good impact. Everything we do and say has an impact on other human beings. God wont ask u how much money u made or what all did u buy he will ask u what did u do for others. How many people did u hurt? How many people are happy cause of you? And how many people are not happy with u.
One word can hurt someone or can make someone smile. Can u believe the power of words? Ask someone who doesn’t have it. Don’t misuse this power cause u are blessed with it. Make someone smile make someone happy all it takes is a voice. A nice kind polite voice. How difficult is it to do that? Next time u hurl an abuse at someone think about it and tell yourself would I like to be abused? Remember one must always put themselves in the other person’s shoes to see how it feels and then act upon it.
Lets work on it together. Lets appreciate people everyday. Lets make people smile everyday. Lets make sure life is as good as u can make it for everyone around u and yourself. I will guarantee you this. Every time you do this and you will feel and will be happier. You will appreciate the power of voice. Remember everyone doesn’t have it so the ones who do please do use it wisely and for a good cause.

Friday, May 16, 2008

Finger Pointing


Life is easier when u can point fingers at others. Don’t u think so. It means u don’t have to take the fall even though it might be your mistake altogether. All u have to do is pass the buck and let the other person take the fall. Pretty easy aint it.
What makes us do that? what makes us shy away from taking up the responsibility? Is it that we never like admitting our mistakes? Is it that our ego is too huge to let it down? Or is it that we just don’t want to look bad in front of people? Can upbringing play an important part in this attitude of ours? Do our teachers play an important part as well? Our friends, relatives everyone play a part in this.
When we were young and we used to fall off our cycles while learning people used to ridicule us, our friends laugh at us and sometimes our parent discourage us by saying you cant do anything right.
Also at home when family gets in a quarrel u will see finger pointing blame being put on each other etc. that too develops our thinking our mental state. If people who influence u cannot accept mistakes what makes them think u will. Right from an early age if u are not taught to take responsibility for your actions and acceptance of your mistakes it will lead make u point fingers having excuses for everything and so on.
Everything starts at the beginning. One has got to learn to be fearless to be able to accept their mistakes without the fear of being ridiculed. Its important cause once u grow older u will see how this affects your life, your relationships and your business. Everything and everyone around us influences us. So when u start doing things right u are influencing everything and everyone around you as well. U got the power to make someone think everyone does remember that.
Someone once told me responsibility is power. And so it is. Don’t ridicule someone cause he/she made a mistake. Rather applaud to the fact that the person admitted to the mistake which shows a strong character in itself.
Lead by example and people will follow. Take responsibility for all that u do. Cause in the end its about doing the right thing. Encourage honesty and it shall help u a great deal. According to me finger pointing is cowardly. Be honest to yourself.